The consensus from what is found in discussions and opinions about sharing a fiancé's income with family is generally that it is considered private information. Sharing this kind of financial detail without the fiancé's consent can be seen as a breach of trust and disrespectful to his privacy. Many suggest that it is better to keep income details between partners, especially if the fiancé requested confidentiality. Revealing the income to family, especially in a context of conflict or to prove a point, might not improve relationships and can lead to trust issues and further complications. Instead, it is advisable to maintain unified communication with the fiancé on how to handle responses from family and protect the relationship's privacy and integrity.
On the other hand, some perspectives focus on the importance of discussing finances within a family or couple for practical reasons, but the key is mutual agreement and respect for privacy. Financial transparency is typically encouraged only if both partners are comfortable and agree on what to share externally.
In conclusion, telling family members how much a fiancé earns without his approval is generally viewed as inappropriate and could be considered an unfair breach of trust, potentially making the person who disclosed the information "the asshole" (AITA) in this context. Respect for the fiancé's wishes and discussing how to handle family interactions about finances is recommended.
