Short answer: “Too far” depends on the context, goals, and boundaries you’re comfortable with. It’s best defined by your values, consent, and practical limits (time, distance, finances, safety). Here are some common lenses to consider.
Personal boundaries and values
- Sex and romance: Decide what level of physical or emotional closeness aligns with your beliefs and comfort. If a boundary feels like “too far,” honor it.
- Consent and communication: Clear, ongoing consent and open conversations help prevent overstepping boundaries for any party involved.
Practical boundaries
- Time and cost: If travel or effort becomes unsustainable or stressful, that boundary might be reached. For many people, a commute under 30–45 minutes is manageable; beyond that, check if the relationship is worth the extra effort.
- Safety and comfort: Prioritize safety in all arrangements, including meeting places, transportation, and who is responsible for travel.
Relationship stage
- Early dating: Many people tolerate shorter distances while assessing compatibility; longer distances can be workable with strong communication and flexible plans.
- Established relationships: Distance tends to be less of a barrier if both partners are committed and able to coordinate visits or relocate if needed.
Social and cultural context
- Norms vary by region and community. Some people are comfortable with long-distance arrangements, others prefer nearby connections.
If you want, share a bit more about the situation (Are you evaluating a new date, a long-distance relationship, or a moral/faith-based question?), and your priorities (time, budget, safety, emotional boundaries). That will allow for a more tailored framework to determine where your personal line might be.
