how to slow dance

To slow dance, follow these simple steps that focus on comfort, connection, and basic movement:

Getting Started

• Ask someone to dance and find a comfortable spot on the dance floor

Positioning Your Arms

There are two common arm positions:

1. Close embrace (hug and sway style):
   • The follower places her arms on the leader’s shoulders or loosely around the neck.
   • The leader places hands on the follower’s hips or lower back.
   • Leave enough space to feel comfortable.
   • You can rest your head on your partner’s chest or shoulder or look at each other

2. Traditional hand hold:
   • The leader’s right hand rests on the follower’s hip or upper back.
   • The leader holds the follower’s hand with the left hand, fingers interlaced or palm-to-palm.
   • The follower’s left hand rests on the leader’s shoulder.
   • This position is good if you don’t know each other well and allows you to look at each other

Footwork and Movement

• Start with a basic step: step right, bring feet together, step left, bring feet together, and repeat.
• To avoid stepping on toes, position your partner slightly to the side so your feet interlock rather than overlap

• Keep your knees relaxed and take small, comfortable steps.
• You can also gently sway side to side without moving your feet, shifting your weight with the rhythm

• For more advanced moves, try slow turns or dips once comfortable

Leading and Following

• Traditionally, the leader (often the guy) gently guides the partner by pushing or pulling slightly with the hands to indicate direction

• The follower responds by matching the leader’s movements.
• Keep movements smooth and predictable to help your partner follow easily

Additional Tips

• Stay relaxed and breathe steadily to maintain a calm presence

• Smile and engage in light conversation if you feel awkward

• Practice will build confidence and allow you to add your own style over time

In essence, slow dancing is about feeling the music together, maintaining comfortable contact, and moving gently in time with the beat. Whether you choose the close sway or hand-hold style, focus on connection and smooth, simple movements