To talk so kids will listen, several effective strategies can be used: 1. Get their attention first
- Use the child's name to capture their focus before speaking, e.g., "George, please come here." Wait until they look at you to ensure they are listening
2. Make eye contact and get on their level
- Physically lower yourself to the child's eye level to connect better and show respect. This helps children feel valued and more likely to listen
3. Use positive and clear language
- Avoid constant "no" or "don't" commands. Instead, use positive phrasing and "I" messages to express what you want, such as "I would like you to share the toy" instead of "Give the toy to your friend"
4. Speak softly rather than yelling
- Raising your voice often causes children to tune out. Speaking quietly encourages them to lean in and listen carefully
5. Ask them to repeat instructions
- After giving a direction, ask the child to repeat it back to confirm they understood and expect them to act on it
6. Give choices to encourage cooperation
- Offering choices gives children a sense of control and autonomy, making them more willing to cooperate
7. Acknowledge and name their feelings
- Listen attentively and validate their emotions without dismissing them. Naming feelings helps children feel understood and calm
8. Use short, simple sentences
- Children listen better when language is easy to understand and instructions are brief
9. Provide information instead of criticism
- Describe what you see or what needs to be done without blaming, e.g., "There is a wet towel on the floor" instead of "You never pick up your towels"
10. Use gentle touch and caring attitude
- A gentle touch can help gain attention and convey warmth, improving listening
These approaches, based on research and expert advice, help foster respectful communication and improve children's willingness to listen and cooperate.
