Hyper-independence is an extreme form of self-reliance where an individual compulsively avoids relying on others for support or assistance. It is a stress response triggered most often by childhood trauma. Hyper-independent people may have difficulty trusting others, delegating to others, and forming close or long-term relationships with others. They may even build their identities around being single. Hyper-independence is not a mental health condition, but it can negatively impact ones well-being and relationships.
Some common signs of hyper-independence include:
- Refusal to ask for help
- Avoidance of situations requiring dependence on others and use of deflection
- Reluctance to share personal information
- Difficulty with neediness
- Few close or long-term relationships
Hyper-independence can be a trauma response when someone learns from a traumatic experience that they cant rely on others for protection or support. Factors linking hyper-independence and trauma include believing social support is undeserved or unacceptable, experiencing past neglect leading to self-reliance, and mistrusting others due to past abuse.
Recognizing and addressing hyper-independent behaviors rooted in trauma is essential for personal growth and well-being. It is important to understand the link between trauma and hyper-independence. Therapy can be helpful in addressing hyper-independence and the underlying trauma.
