When someone has lost a baby, it is important to express sincere sympathy, acknowledge their pain, and offer emotional and practical support without minimizing their grief. Simple words like "I'm so sorry for your loss" or "I'm here for you" validate their feelings and show compassion. It's also helpful to offer to listen or provide specific help like bringing meals or running errands, while respecting their pace of grieving and avoiding clichés or unsolicited advice. Here are some sensitive things to say:
- "I'm so sorry for your loss."
- "This must be incredibly difficult."
- "I'm here if you want to talk, cry, or just sit in silence."
- "Your baby was loved and wanted."
- "There is no shame in feeling sad or confused."
- "I’m thinking of you during this difficult time."
- "Take all the time you need to heal."
Things to avoid include saying "everything happens for a reason," "at least you can try again," or "they are in a better place now," as these can feel dismissive or minimize the loss. Offering continued support and practical help over time is also important since grief doesn't follow a clear timeline. Letting them know you care and respecting their feelings can be a significant comfort during this very painful experience.
