It is generally appropriate to ask why someone does not drink only if there is a clear, respectful context where the person asking genuinely cares or needs to know, such as close friends or family members. Otherwise, it is often seen as intrusive or rude because drinking choices can be deeply personal, related to health, recovery, or personal preference. If the question is asked, it should be done with sensitivity and respect for the person's privacy and comfort level. People might ask why someone does not drink out of curiosity, wanting inclusion, or discomfort with their own drinking. However, because the reasons for not drinking can be private or sensitive, it is best to avoid asking unless invited to know. Approaching the question with openness and non- judgment is important, and if unsure, asking the person why they think it is a relevant question can help clarify intentions. In summary:
- Appropriate to ask when there is a close, trusting relationship or legitimate reason.
- Avoid asking in casual or social settings unless the person signals openness.
- Be respectful and mindful that the reason might be personal (health, recovery, preference).
- If asking, do so with genuine care and be prepared to accept a brief or no explanation.
This aligns with advice that discourages nosiness and encourages respecting personal boundaries around alcohol use.
