why should adult leaders avoid labeling youth as 'bully' or 'victim'?

Adult leaders should avoid labeling youth as "bully" or "victim" because these labels can reinforce negative behaviors and create self-fulfilling prophecies, where youth internalize the label and continue acting accordingly. Labeling can escalate conflicts publicly, making it harder to resolve issues constructively and privately. Moreover, such labels imply that the behavior or victim status is a fixed, permanent trait, which sends a false message that the youth cannot change, limiting their potential for growth and positive change. The focus should be on describing behavior, not defining identity. For example, instead of calling someone a "bully," say "youth who bullied," or instead of "victim," use "youth who was bullied." This language emphasizes the behavior as something that can change with support, education, and intervention. Using non-labeling language also helps avoid negative stereotypes that influence how youth see themselves and how others perceive and interact with them. It empowers the youth to believe in the possibility of change, reduces shame and defensiveness, and helps create a safer and more positive social environment. Additionally, labeling youth can hinder de- escalation of bullying behaviors and prevent building trust and community needed to address the situation effectively. Leaders promoting positive behavior and a supportive environment are more likely to successfully prevent and intervene in bullying than those who rely on fixed labels.