The concept of love languages was developed by Gary Chapman, Ph.D., in his book "The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate". The book outlines five general ways that romantic partners express and experience love, which Chapman calls "love languages". They are:
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Words of affirmation: This love language consists of encouraging, positive words and verbal or written acknowledgments of love and care.
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Quality time: This language is all about giving the other person your undivided attention.
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Receiving gifts: For some people, receiving a heartfelt gift is what makes them feel most loved.
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Acts of service: This love language involves doing things for your partner that you know they would like you to do.
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Physical touch: To this person, nothing speaks more deeply than appropriate physical touch.
Chapman suggests that to discover another persons love language, one must observe the way they express love to others, and analyze what they complain about most often and what they request from their significant other most often. He theorizes that people tend to naturally give love in the way that they prefer to receive love, and better communication between couples can be accomplished when one can demonstrate caring to the other person in the love language the recipient understands. Love languages are a useful tool to improve how we communicate and express ourselves to each other, but they shouldnt be the only solution for happiness. Instead, they should function as a starting point that sets couples on a journey to meet each other in a more profound way.
